About Me

I am the proud mother of 6 children. 5 of our children have autism. We do not feel our world has ended, but just begun. We do not chelate, intervene biochemically, give shots of any kind, practice ABA, etc. We treat them as we treat any humanbeing. We treat them with kindness and respect and expect the same from them. They are exceptional children.

Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Are You Kidding Me????

I do not know why I feel the need to read the posts of parent's of autistic children on a certain Support Group. I get really agitated every time. I suppose I do it so I can reassure myself that we are doing the right thing. Who knows? Hopefully I will get so sick of it that I will just let it go.
Today, I read a post the mother of one 2 year old, newly diagnosed, autistic son wrote. She wanted to know what her son would be like at the age of 18? Will he go to the prom? Will he have friends? Will he talk?
I want to respond to her, but the panel gets so incensed with everything I write, that I restrain myself.
That is why I started a blog......
So here it goes...
1. Who the hell knows what he is going to be like at 3, let alone 18?
2. He will go to the prom if you let him..
3. He will talk when and if he wants and is ready to.
4. If you quit shoving all that biomedical crap down his throat he might do these things sooner.
5. If you allow him to be the wonderful, amazing child that God gave you, he might show you things you could never have imagined.
6. If you let go of the false dream of what "normal" should be and accept this child for who he is, You will be amazed by what you will get.

You will get the most wonderful gift. You will get a child who loves you unconditionally, because you love him unconditionally. You will get the hugs and smiles and hopefully kisses. The kind I get every morning from all my kids. But especially our youngest. He is a non-verbal, rocking, spinning, buzzing bundle of a little boy. A little boy who loves being in his own world, but occasionally lets us in. Just be a little smile, a squeeze to our neck or if we are really lucky....he purses up his lips and gives us the greatest gift of a kiss.
I do not know what Kiernan will be at 18. I am so happy that he is here at the age of 5. I hope he becomes whatever he wants. We will allow him the freedom to make his choices and hopefully we will have taught him well.
Let your little boy be just that-A LITTLE BOY.

Anyways, that is what my response would be.
Too Critical?

3 comments:

Soapbox mom said...

Hi-
I read that post and had similar thoughts. But what I wondered was, how can anyone guess what their child will be like in adulthood? Autistic or otherwise?
It's funny, my oldest son at age five was the kid that wore a suit and tie for his school picture (we had gotten it in a hand-me-down bag and he thought it made him look grown-up; it did not). In first grade, he cried on picture day because the suit no longer fit him. He was always very rule-abiding and constantly reminded me of speed limits. "Mommy? How fast are you going? It says 'speed limit 30'." I honestly expected this boy to be a poster child for the young Republicans. FTR, I would have supported him in that decision, though I would have questioned his actual relation to me and his dad. kidding, here.
My point is, there is simply no way to determine your child's destiny and personality. You can't do it. This kid is now among the most liberal, open-minded, and staunchly Democratic people I know.

S.L. said...

Hello. I am enjoying reading your blog, thanks for commenting on mine! It is so refreshing and reassuring to be coming across more moms like you!! I agree with your response 100%. We can only hope that these parents keep an open-mind & eventually realize all they are missing out on. Btw, I see you live in Austin. So jealous! We lived there for a few years, & are now back in NTex. Miss the hills, the lakes, & the people!

Camille said...

"1. Who the hell knows what he is going to be like at 3, let alone 18?
2. He will go to the prom if you let him..
3. He will talk when and if he wants and is ready to.
4. If you quit shoving all that biomedical crap down his throat he might do these things sooner.
5. If you allow him to be the wonderful, amazing child that God gave you, he might show you things you could never have imagined.
6. If you let go of the false dream of what "normal" should be and accept this child for who he is, You will be amazed by what you will get."


Amen.