About Me

I am the proud mother of 6 children. 5 of our children have autism. We do not feel our world has ended, but just begun. We do not chelate, intervene biochemically, give shots of any kind, practice ABA, etc. We treat them as we treat any humanbeing. We treat them with kindness and respect and expect the same from them. They are exceptional children.

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT.....

In my house..it is not about pulling metals, fixing GF/CF food, crushing supplements or bashing my husband. In my house, it is about raising children to be loving and caring.

I asked our daughter Deirdre, who has Asperger's, to please take up Caitlin's dinner. She likes to eat in her room...so, I let her. I said to Deirdre, "when you give her her food, tell her you love her (because that is what I do)..."
Of course, Deirdre says "NO".
I said, "C'Mon"...Deirdre agreed...reluctantly...

Deirdre came downstairs with a huge grin on her face...

I asked her if she said I love You....Deirdre said, "I said Love Ya"...

I asked Deirdre what Caitlin said....
Deirdre said, "She said "I love you" back"...

I asked Deirdre if that made her happy....
Deirdre, in all of her wisdom said, "That is why I am smiling"....

Of course..I start crying !!!!

I have had a crappy day...fought with the bank, fought with cable, had to get Kiernan's
Vanguard system back on track, needed to go to the post office (couldn't), fighting a really
shitty sore mouth, having my provider not show up, but...in the end...
this is what my life is all about....
About being able to raise Autistic children to be loving and caring...

God has given me quite a lot. Sometimes I wonder why he chose me...
This last week, reading the whiny crap on other blogs and on AoA, I now
know why....
I hope you can figure out why soon !!!

15 comments:

KWombles said...

Very nice, Jeanette. ((( hugs to you )))

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. And that you're able to get into the dentist soon for that tooth.

Whatsherface? said...

It's about a lot more than whining!

If only parents like that could realize that it's hell because they are spending their time angsting and cursing the Gods, rather than spending time with their kids!

Another great post! :D

kathleen said...

Toothaches are the worst..I hope it gets fixed today..wonderful post as usual..

Anonymous said...

I just want to say that you are quite possibly the rudest bitch I have ever came across...

how dare you attack anyone that is going through autism.....you were handed a freakin house from abc......and you are still complaining

give me a break......you ever stop to think that maybe others that are going through autism.....havent gotten the same 'siler platter' treatment that you have had

you should be ashamed of yourself...i am praying for you

my name is Andy Smith and I live in the USA, and my son has autism and i have been reading your blog and crystals as well

i am very disappointed and will not be viewing your blog again

Anonymous said...

'SILVER PLATTER' before you start picking....the V stuck

Mom26children said...

Hi Andy Smith,
I in turn, will not call you a name, that would be very immature of me.
I would like to comment on your "silver platter" comment....we were not handed anything. We were blessed and we count those blessings every day.
You may still pray for us though...we can always use extra prayers.
I blog to show the side of autism that is not depressing or a big, fat pity-party.
I do not hate anything about my kids, including their autism. I don't blame a bad marriage, finances, lack of friends, lack of family members on my children or their autism.
How does that make me a bitch?

Anonymous said...

that does not make you a bitch, your rude comments about others, who may not have the 'wonderful' things that you have.....is why I think you are rude.

Who are you to say if Autism has affected a marrage or anything else, for anyone else but yourself.....Autism has never started one fight between you and your husband? If it hasn't, you are possibly the only family in the world that hasnt and i wish we all had your love.....but not everyone is like you.

we are supposed to love each other as brothers and sisters, not bash them because they are going through something completely different than you.....

it looks to me like the mother with the largest number of biologiocally related autistic children documented in the United States, who was GIVEN, a beautiful home and everything needed to take the 'stress' off of your lives.... would be teaching others, not calling them names. You are unimpressive.

I will say prayers for you and your family. I think you need guidance. I hope god blesses yours, and Crystal's famlies.

Why don't you tell ABC that you know of a family that may be suffering and see if they will 'GIVE' crystal a home......maybe, she could be a little less stressed like you

Mom26children said...

Andy,
No, my husband and myself have never argued about Autism. What is there to argue about?
I have 6 children, I have plenty of stress...I just do not blame the stress on my children's autism.
Crystal allowed people (who happen to be Autism parents) to call me names on her blog. I asked to be able to respond (and my responses have ALWAYS been without name-calling). She did not let me respond and has since removed the comments...funny thing, I saved them.
We were nominated, by a neighbor, for extreme Makeover. We had to go through a very extensive background check. We had over 1000 letters of support from our community. We did not expect to receive the home, because we did not think we were any more deserving than any one else.
If someone cares enough for a family they should nominate them. I do not know Crystal...if you do, maybe you should nominate her.

kathleen said...

I am sorry that some people are so nasty Jeanette...I didn't know you did homemakeover-how cool is that. Funny, when ever anyone talks about what they have in a joyful way-other people get so blinded by petty jealousy. So now a woman who who talks disparigingly about her child is so much more worthy than you are? And this is because ...why? I love how you talk about your family-the joy, the hard times..the ceasless love and respect. I love that you stand up for what you believe in in a way that may be strong-but is always respectful. If people really listened to what you said-and how you said it..you wouldn't get all the nasty comments that you do on this blog..the self righteous vitriol..the "oh you don't know how hard we have had it" But do they ever look at your experience? No. Instead they label in an attempt to justify their anger. Good riddance to them.It's odd isn't it-you got called names..and yet you are the bitch..nonsense!

Mom26children said...

Thanks for the kind words Kathleen. A dear friend of mine, calls to check up on me, after she reads the "colorful" comments. She said she could not do it, let the hateful comments through.
I tell her that I could block the comments, but I think they reveal more of a person than they realize.
The person from Miami, who called me a "bitch" revealed much more of themselves than they probably wanted to. And then to add God in the mix...shameless, especially after calling me out of my name !!!
Not very God-like, if you ask me.

KWombles said...

Jeanette,

I love these people who call themselves Christian, say they'll pray for you and then call you a bitch. It's priceless.

I absolutely agree that letting their posts stay is the right thing to do. It reveals everything about them. Of course, they're not likely to feel any shame over their actions, but others can see them for what they are.

You've done a fine job with your blog. I'm honored to call you a friend.

Maddy said...

Good grief! I don't usually read the comments.....this reminds me just why I don't read the comments.

If that's whining then I'm afraid you're sadly going to fail, doesn't even come close.

I was delighted to read the exchange between your children, sorry I lost the plot for a moment there.

Lyn said...

Harshness aside, that's so sweet! Who cares about harsh folks when you get a seen like that? Totally made me smile.

Feel better

Mary H said...

Jeanette,
Don't let ignorant people get you down. I am not calling names, I am just stating the obvious. I know how much you love your children and how hard you work for them. You and Patrick make it work. Your children are wonderful. Remember, I personally know that it takes 3 adults to do for one day what you do by yourself, every day. I am in awe of you!
Love,
Mary

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